Do you find yourself asking ‘What the ______ (insert explicative of choice here)’ on a regular basis? If so, you’re in the right place. If not, you’re still in the right place because if you’re not asking yourself WTF when it comes to your health and wellbeing you should be! You (literally) can’t afford not to be. This is your life people–and if you’re anything like me, you make a lot of mistakes but your health doesn’t have to be one of them! I’ve learned many lessons on my journey to health. This is my story; the story of a nurse gone natural. So pull up a chair- it’s about to get real.
Since becoming an RN ten years ago and working in acute care I have been progressively asking myself WTF for years. I became a nurse (cue instrumental music) out of a lifelong desire to help people and change their lives for the better. My plan was to go to go to nursing school, become a nurse, and spend my life saving the world! Easy, right?!
Except instead of “saving the world” one patient at a time, I progressively felt like I wasn’t truly helping people at all. In fact, I felt like I was either keeping them sick or in some cases, making them sicker. Over the last ten years as a nurse, I have seen the focus shift more and more away from the patient and more onto pharmaceuticals and paperwork to CYA (cover your ass). On top of that, I work alongside many physicians who admit that in medical school the main focus is how to match pharmaceuticals to merely manage symptoms of disease. For years I have been asking why are we simply trying to clear the smoke when we should be putting out the fire? And better yet, preventing the fire from starting in the first place! What the…?!
People ask questions all the time. Which Kardashian is pregnant this week? Did you see Real Housewives last night? But why are we not asking questions when it comes to our health? And if we are, why are we automatically taking what we hear as truth? There is no debate that our healthcare system is failing; it has been for years…decades. We are getting sicker and shockingly- despite all our advances in medicine- our life expectancy is now decreasing! If that doesn’t make you say ‘what the f%#?!’, I don’t know what will and I can’t help you. Now, get back to your Real Housewives marathon!
Sorry, not sorry
My apologies if I sound harsh, but trust me- I’m on your side! The truth is, we need some tough love when it comes to taking charge of our health. We can’t afford not to be harsh and tell it like it is. Like your Mom when you’d get in trouble as a kid– I’m not mad, I’m just disappointed. Except, I am mad. I’m mad as hell…and disappointed. And you should be too. We deserve better. Bottom line.
A lot of people want to share their success stories and motivate you to do the same. I love that mentality and I have many success stories to share as well. But first, I hope my family’s experience with the failure of our healthcare system will open your eyes to the shitty way we practice “healthcare” (I feel the need to use quotes because we are by no means getting healthier) in this country. I hope my story will motivate you to take charge of your health and the health of your loved ones. We literally can’t afford not to.
When I went to nursing school I learned a lot about disease, how disease wreaks havoc on the body and how to manage disease with medications. Much of my studying for my board exam revolved around memorizing diseases, medications, side effects, etc. Important stuff, no doubt, but nursing school made little emphasis on the importance of diet and lifestyle or (gasp) actual solutions to people’s health problems.
Major let down
In 2010 my Dad was diagnosed with early onset dementia in his early 60s. My world changed in an instant. I remember sitting in the neurologist’s office with my parents when the diagnosis was made. The neurologist stoically and unsympathetically told us my Dad had dementia, there was no cure, and minimal treatment options. He was matter of fact in his demeanor and seemingly unphased by the fact that we just received the memo that each of our lives would never be the same.
As a nurse, I knew the diagnosis was a short straw, but I probed for other options—like starting a regular exercise routine, dietary changes, testing for heavy metal toxicity, etc. Each time I was cut short and eventually told by the neurologist, “I know it sucks. My father died from Alzheimer’s too…I’ll have the social worker come in to speak with you guys.” As if the fact that his own father suffered from Alzheimer’s made the diagnosis more bearable for us. And surely passing us off onto a social worker would appease my questions.
Mad as hell
I was relentless. We saw several physicians and each time I was met with resistance with every suggestion I made—testing for vitamin deficiencies, heavy metal toxicity, etc. I began to look at health—and wellness differently. I began to question everything I had learned about health. I began asking WTF?!
My focus became immersing myself in reading everything I could about brain health, dementia, and neurodegeneration. I realized I would have to do my own research and be my Dad’s advocate—both as a nurse and as a daughter. In my research, I discovered numerous alternative therapies and first heard of the term “functional medicine” (which back in 2010 was largely unheard of). It opened my eyes to the small rigid conventional medicine box I had been taught to live in and completely changed the way I looked at health.
Long story short(ish)
It was a long and rough road on the conventional medicine front, but we finally found a wonderful functional neurologist who was willing to look outside the box and took over my Dad’s care. He was tested and we found multiple deficiencies and some heavy metal toxicity, amongst other things. However, after a long and heartbreaking battle, dementia prevailed and my Dad passed away in 2015.
Since then, I have looked at health differently and it has been my mission to motivate others to do their own research and advocate for themselves when it comes to health. Sadly, if you don’t, no one else will. I believe conventional medicine is necessary and please—if I get hit by a bus take me to the ER STAT. That said, I also think it’s time we start asking questions and not automatically believing everything we see on a pharmaceutical commercial or what we are told by a doctor in a white lab coat. It’s time we think for ourselves, start asking WTF when it comes to our health, and find real solutions to our problems, not just ‘bandaids’.
Okay, enough Debbie Downing. Let’s shift gears to Motivating Molly! I’m not telling you my ‘sob’ story for pity or to make you feel bad. I’m sharing this as a plea for you to open your eyes and ask questions. Be your own advocate, and take charge of your health! We are a narcissistic society—no one cares more about you than you. No one has your best interest at heart more than you do. Don’t wait until your health or the health of someone you love is compromised. Take charge now so you can avoid an epic fail of the system and the (often unnecessary) grief that comes with the aftermath. I don’t want anyone else to have to endure the nightmare my family went though. Don’t let the system fail you like it failed my Dad.
You might not have to be sick forever or go down a downward spiral of medical problems. Just because you have a family history or are ‘predisposed’ to ‘x, y, z’ doesn’t mean ‘x, y, z’ is your destiny. You heard me- you might not have to have these problems! I didn’t learn this until I discovered functional medicine and started to do my own research. If my Dad had known and had been more proactive earlier, he may not have had to go down the road he did. Our family may not have had to endure what we did. I wish I had learned what I know know a decade ago, but I had to figure this stuff out on my own the hard way. And I continue to learn every day. Now, I want to help others from (potentially) preventable illness, disease, and struggle so you can live your best life and own your health.
The good news is there are so many small and simple things you can do to change your health for the better now. My mission is just that- to keep it real, and give you answers and solutions to your health problems/concerns now to save you from potential unnecessary struggles later. I’m going to push you to ask questions and take charge so you can solve your problems or prevent them in the first place! I want to give people solutions to their health problems- whether that means using conventional medicine or unconventional medicine or a combination of both. I’m not strictly anti-conventional medicine or pro-alternative medicine- I’m for whatever the *beep* works! I’m about finding real solutions, and some of them happen to be natural.
I created this site because I want to create a shift in the way we view disease and also more importantly the way we view wellness. With the right diet and lifestyle, the majority of disease is preventable. And the first step is learning to ask ‘what the _____?!’